Understanding our emotions can be challenging sometimes, even when it is just one emotion. So can you imagine feeling and handling multiple emotions at once! Emotions can easily take over our minds and drag it down multiple paths of darkness. They seem to have eighty to ninety percent rule over our daily lives. We often allow how we feel emotionally dictate how and what decisions we make.
According to Hockenbury & Hockenbury 2007, “an emotion is a complex psychological state that involves three distinct components: A subjective experience, a physiological response and a behavioral or expressive response. These components do not change because of race or color. We are affected by emotions the same way but sometime respond similar or in different ways. Maybe not in the same order but psychologically the same.
How we respond to emotions usually dictate the destination based on our experiences because of our response to those emotions. It may not always be easy, but we should always try to respond positively to our emotions. Doing this will help us not to alter our self-love and self-esteem. It s will also help to stop our hearts from being filled with regrets, The way it would if we respond negatively to those emotions. Responding to our emotions with temporary coping mechanism such as, shopping, eating, and drinking can become problematic. This we should try to avoid. Emotions can be valuable and offer great benefits. But to realize or see these benefits and values, we must first learn to effectively cope with them. I call it “the humono co-existence” which occurs when we as humans learn to co exist with our emotions for what they really are. Which are valuable, useful and a learning base.
The next time you become over thrown by your emotions, try my clear-cut step-by-step guide to help you reap the benefits and see the value of your emotions. First try to identify how you are feeling and attach it to one of the main emotions, whether it anger, sadness, anxiety or happiness. Doing this you will be able to see the message from your emotions.
The second step is to be open and accept what is going on around you. Try not to suppress your feelings, deal with them. Suppressing them can only make them one hundred times more difficult to deal this at a later time.
The third step is to ask yourself a series of questions, which include:
– Why am I feeling this way?
– Did I loose something?
– Have I gained anything?
– What am I feeling?
– What is the cause of this feeling?
The fourth step is to take action. This involves brainstorming for solutions to the problem causing your emotions. Ask yourself, what can you do to solve the current situation. In this step you can reach out to someone you trust to help evaluate the situation and give suggestions to solving the problem.
The fifth and final step is, be grateful, think positive and play to your strengths. Playing to your strengths is doing things you enjoy and that are good for you. Be perceptible of all the good things in your life. Which is counting your blessings.
Remember, emotions are only as bad, threatening and confusing as you as an individual makes them. Decide today to start making them apart of your positive growth. Use them for all their valuable benefits. Try to develop an emotional intelligence, be in the know of others feelings as well as you do yours. Acquiring this beautiful skill will always be worthwhile. Like Maya Angelou said “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
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